Schools Back In Session, Are You Continuing Your Education?

Schools Back In Session, Are You Continuing Your Education?

Lisa’s thoughts on school…

Around this time of year you will find me working on getting our family schedules back in line and I am excited about the quiet morning time Greg and I get to resume.  Don’t get me wrong, I am still organizing and working schedules, but this year another agenda entered our lives, continuing marriage education.

Our kids were going back into the classroom, so why weren’t we?

Greg and I spend a lot of time looking into curriculums and reading marriage materials to prepare ourselves for the enrichment we facilitate for other couples in our community, but looking into materials for a class and reading a book together to benefit our marriage are two totally different things.

We definitely benefit in our marriage from reading materials to prepare for group studies, but sometimes your own marriage can fall between those cracks.

Just because marriage has become our career doesn’t mean we don’t have to work on it, if anything we have to work harder.  This morning we started reading a marriage book called Love Busters, it is an accompanying book to His Needs Her Needs by Willard Harley.  We are both very excited to look at our marriage through this book and learn ways that we may be subtracting from each others love bank.

How can you and your spouse continue your marriage education this year?

What Does Your Calendar Say About Your Marriage?

What Does Your Calendar Say About Your Marriage?

We all put time and energy into what is important to us, so what does your calendar say about your marriage?

This concept is not new and I didn’t come up with it, but I think it is a very important question to ask yourself about your marriage.  Marriage is hard and it takes work.  Your spouse does not come with an instruction manual and life throws us curve balls.  Taking the time to develop skills in your marriage and learn how to better meet each others needs is a key to a happy and successful marriage.

Where is your marriage on your list of priorities?

So where is your marriage on your list of priorities?  Did you think to put it first after you got married?   I know it took a little while for that concept to become a realization for me.  I was happy, he was great, then we moved in together and the real work needed to start.  Not only did we have to start learning how to be better spouses for each other, we had to learn how to parent together and parent children that weren’t our own, talk about a situation where two people needed to come together and make sure they were on the same team!

There are many great resources out there, you just have to step out together and not be afraid of your weaknesses so you can learn from them and strengthen each other.

calendar3Learning to communicate better, parent together and how to have a sex life with toddlers may seem like daunting tasks and topics you may be afraid to approach together, but stepping out and being bold for your marriage has big payoffs!  We all take the time to learn how to drive our cars and do our jobs, so why wouldn’t we spend time and resources benefitting and fortifying the most important union in our lives?

If you looked at the last month of your calendar, what would it say about your marriage?

What does your calendar say about your marriage, have you had a date night or read a marriage book together recently?  Taking the time to be proactive will ensure your success at not always having a reactive blowout when something goes wrong.  Marriage retreats and study groups are not only for couples who are struggling and on the edge of divorce, they are for couples who don’t want to get to that point in their relationship.

Make your calendar count!