Admitting Your Faults In Marriage

Admitting Your Faults In Marriage

Lisa’s thoughts…

Greg and I recently started re-reading a book together called Love Busters, and the first three chapters have been an eye opener for me.  I have cultivated some bad habits in our marriage and it is challenging to be reading my faults laid out in front of me.

I am so glad that we are spending time enriching our marriage and that I can address these things and not let them continue to grow and fester.

I find that it is very easy to start a bad habit and not even realize I am doing it.  I can’t imagine what our relationship might look like if we didn’t spend the time educating ourselves on how to be in relationship with each other.  The more things we read together and workshops we experience together, the stronger and more positive our marriage grows.

When we first started educating ourselves, it was very easy for me to pick out Greg’s faults in what we were reading or hearing.

It took God a while to get through to me that I needed to be looking at my heart, my faults, my contributions to our relationships, because those are the ones I am responsible for and the only ones He can help me change.  It is not easy to look in the mirror sometimes and see that I have flaws I need to work on, I know we all have flaws, but I don’t always want to see them.

Being a “perfect princess” is a lot easier than the truth of being transformed towards perfection by God.

It is not easy to see where I need to change but it is so important for our relationship that I do.  I have found that if I have the right attitude about seeking how I can help when we start a book, I can swallow the pill a lot easier when it gets handed to me.  Bottom line, I am responsible for how my relationship with my husband goes and I have to be willing to look at what is ugly about me so God can help me clean it up and make it beautiful.

 

Schools Back In Session, Are You Continuing Your Education?

Schools Back In Session, Are You Continuing Your Education?

Lisa’s thoughts on school…

Around this time of year you will find me working on getting our family schedules back in line and I am excited about the quiet morning time Greg and I get to resume.  Don’t get me wrong, I am still organizing and working schedules, but this year another agenda entered our lives, continuing marriage education.

Our kids were going back into the classroom, so why weren’t we?

Greg and I spend a lot of time looking into curriculums and reading marriage materials to prepare ourselves for the enrichment we facilitate for other couples in our community, but looking into materials for a class and reading a book together to benefit our marriage are two totally different things.

We definitely benefit in our marriage from reading materials to prepare for group studies, but sometimes your own marriage can fall between those cracks.

Just because marriage has become our career doesn’t mean we don’t have to work on it, if anything we have to work harder.  This morning we started reading a marriage book called Love Busters, it is an accompanying book to His Needs Her Needs by Willard Harley.  We are both very excited to look at our marriage through this book and learn ways that we may be subtracting from each others love bank.

How can you and your spouse continue your marriage education this year?