We all put time and energy into what is important to us, so what does your calendar say about your marriage?
This concept is not new and I didn’t come up with it, but I think it is a very important question to ask yourself about your marriage. Marriage is hard and it takes work. Your spouse does not come with an instruction manual and life throws us curve balls. Taking the time to develop skills in your marriage and learn how to better meet each others needs is a key to a happy and successful marriage.
Where is your marriage on your list of priorities?
So where is your marriage on your list of priorities? Did you think to put it first after you got married? I know it took a little while for that concept to become a realization for me. I was happy, he was great, then we moved in together and the real work needed to start. Not only did we have to start learning how to be better spouses for each other, we had to learn how to parent together and parent children that weren’t our own, talk about a situation where two people needed to come together and make sure they were on the same team!
There are many great resources out there, you just have to step out together and not be afraid of your weaknesses so you can learn from them and strengthen each other.
Learning to communicate better, parent together and how to have a sex life with toddlers may seem like daunting tasks and topics you may be afraid to approach together, but stepping out and being bold for your marriage has big payoffs! We all take the time to learn how to drive our cars and do our jobs, so why wouldn’t we spend time and resources benefitting and fortifying the most important union in our lives?
If you looked at the last month of your calendar, what would it say about your marriage?
What does your calendar say about your marriage, have you had a date night or read a marriage book together recently? Taking the time to be proactive will ensure your success at not always having a reactive blowout when something goes wrong. Marriage retreats and study groups are not only for couples who are struggling and on the edge of divorce, they are for couples who don’t want to get to that point in their relationship.
Make your calendar count!