Is your heart set on your marriage? We have been through seasons in our marriage when our hearts were in the wrong place. Life gets busy. Things like careers, children, hobbies, friends or ministry can start to take over our day to day existence and we find our marriage has been put on the back burner. When we find ourselves in these seasons we are disconnected; communication is harder, intimacy is harder, marriage is harder. By the time we realize what is going on we are already in the thick of it and we have some work to do.
Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it. ~ Proverbs 4:23 NIV
When our marriage gets to this place we need to stop and do a heart check. What is our heart saying about our marriage? What are we thinking about each other at this time and why? Our self talk can really lead us into some dangerous places when we don’t check our thoughts. It is really easy to get to an ugly place with your spouse if you let your heart and mind run rampant and don’t guard what you let in. We have found ourselves in some pretty disconnected times due to not maintaining our heart attitudes towards each other.
Create in me a clean heart, O God, and renew a right spirit within me. ~ Psalm 51:10 ESV
We have had to reset our hearts towards each other several times during our marriage. For us there is usually a disconnect due to business, so it is easy to choose each other and our marriage and reset our hearts toward each other. We have also had seasons where disagreements have caused the disconnect and it takes some work and prayer to get our hearts lined up with each other. And to be honest, there have been times we had to choose our marriage on purpose and push through what was going on to get to a better place, sometimes it is just about choosing each other again. Marriage is not always easy, but life long love and friendship are always worth the effort.