This week has me thinking about how we serve each other in our marriages. When we serve our spouse, we are showing them love as God would have us show them love.
There are times I don’t want to serve my spouse.
This week my husband agreed to play bass for a play at our junior high. This meant him spending extra time learning songs, having an evening practice, and spending the next day at the school for the performance. We had to move some lesson students and make some meal changes to accommodate Greg being able to pull all of this off. I had a choice here, I could let him “do” his job or I could step up and serve him the best I could to make it a smoother couple of days.
A sandwich is a funny thing, usually taken for granted, a sandwich can be a huge blessing when you are running from one job to the next at 6:30 at night.
I knew I needed to help my husband this week, so we worked together to make the necessary student moves and I made sure he had the things he needed to keep going, like sandwiches as he was running out the door. I think it is so much easier to work as a team and step in to serve your spouse when they need you, even if they don’t ask, it is good to seek ways to serve each other.
There are times I don’t appreciate my husband trying to serve me.
I really enjoyed Mother’s Day this year, my husband made sure all the meals were taken care of and made sure I had a carefree day. He even let me sleep in the morning after and made sure the kids got breakfast and got off to school. I should have been thrilled, but all I saw when I got up was the kitchen to be cleaned from all of the meals I got out of making. I was so appreciative of all Greg had done, but had a stinky attitude about the extra work that had been left for me. My heart was not in the right place, so I had to adjust it.
I decided to take the opportunity to learn that if I am going to serve someone I want to try to not make extra work for them in the process.
I once read that we teach people how to treat us, and the bible says we are forgiven the way we forgive, so it should stand to reason that we will get served in the same way we choose to serve others. We teach people how to serve us and 2Corinthians 9:7 says God loves a cheerful giver. We signed up to serve each other when we said “I do”.
James 4:17 says that So whoever knows the right thing to do and fails to do it, for him it is sin.
Try to find ways to serve your spouse, they don’t always have to be tasks that are noticed or that you get credit for from your spouse. God knows and He knows what you need and can make sure you get it. Serve your spouse and show them how to serve you.