Communication,  Needs,  Sex

Mirror Mirror

Greg says:

I once read somewhere that God uses your spouse as a mirror… when you are seeing a fault in your spouse, the purpose is to expose a fault in you…

You can continue to criticize your spouses faults and wallow in your frustrations OR you can do the mature thing…work on “SELF”

I would do ANYTHING to give my spouse the best of me!

But why does she keep doing that hurtful thing???  It is because God is using her to show me where “I” need work!  Not what I need to “fix” about her… that’s God’s job, not mine!  I REALLY struggle with rejection and I am quick to point out what I see as the hypocritical actions of others.  This mirror concept into play it takes diligence and extreme maturity, which I only seem to be able to grasp when I do not view the reflection…

When my spouse is hurting me, all I see is the hypocritical nature of which she is operating, and boy let me tell you I typically have no reservations about letting her know it, but when the tables are turned its excuse after excuse after excuse outta me!

A big fault I have is when hurting over sex I bring out ol trusty 1 Corinthians 7:5 (yah, I am that guy… so I am not perfect!)  Well God flipped it on me today, (as he has many times before) and I have a challenge for ALL OF YOU that takes great courage and maximum spiritual tenacity!

This is my challenge for both men and women…

Look at this scripture… I copied and pasted the following from www.crosswalk.com

1 Corinthians 7:5 NIV

Do not deprive each other except by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.

and read this prayer

Dear God, Expose to me what it is about me that I am withholding from my spouse whether I am aware of it or not. Show me how I am depriving my spouse of their current greatest need or needs. Teach me to serve and to stop delivering what I “want” to give instead of what I need to give. I am devoting myself to prayer about this NOW therefore there is no need to agree to refrain from meeting such needs for any amount of time. Dear God give me the abundance and ability to serve to overflow my spouse with good fruit so you can expose their next greatest need and then help me repeat the process… bring us together with respect to these needs to keep Satan out of my marriage! Dear God, I DO understand that this verse may be on the surface about sex, but that this verse has a much deeper and broader context in my marriage, and the duties assigned to me by you that came with the gift from you of my spouse.

My challenge is for you to memorize this prayer and reapply it to the needs of YOUR spouse! Pray it daily for a week.

You will know its working because God is going to expose to you areas you need to work on and start doing a great work on you.

It can remind you of that first time you ran a new virus protection program on a computer that had not had protection…

Do not deprive each other except by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.

Now, if you read it aloud and thought YAH! My spouse needs to do this…then go back …walk… and read it aloud again!

Or as Mr. Miagi so brilliantly asked… both sides?

Keep re reading it until you can OWN it! Re write your own version and share it in the comments.

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