The following verse caught my attention and has me thinking about how it relates to marriage.
And let us consider one another in order to stir up love and good works, ~Hebrews10:24
And let us consider one another…
The word “consider” means: to think about carefully, to regard or treat in an attentive or kindly way, or to gaze on steadily and reflectively.
This means we are to spend time meditating on our spouse and their needs. When we first start dating we spend all of our time getting to know our spouse to see if they are a suitable mate, once that decision is made we don’t tend to give the same careful observation to them that we once did. We can stop regarding them in the same manner, and in turn, become less attentive to them.
Acquire wisdom; and with all your acquiring, get understanding. ~Proverbs4:7
We should continue on a path of learning about our spouse through our marriage, unfortunately, I think we start finding things we don’t like and it can have us shying away from spending time finding out more. God calls us to a one-flesh union and an intimacy that is found in no other relationship outside of marriage, the true blessing of this relationship can only be received by continually searching each other and knowing the heart of your other half intimately. When you spend time acquiring wisdom about your spouse, you can understand them in a more fulfilling way.
in order to stir up love and good works…
To “Stir up” mean: to cause (someone) to feel a strong emotion and a desire to do something.
I can’t help but to think about “the way we are supposed to be thinking about” our spouse. This verse calls us to consider others in such a way that we would know them and their needs well enough that we could stir up love and good works in them. It is our duty in our marriages to care for our spouse in a way that makes them better people.
Good understanding produces favor. ~Proverbs 13:15
We are to be servants in our marriage and are responsible to meet the needs of our spouse, and in turn, they are to serve us and to meet our needs, the quandary usually falls under “who is going to go first”. There are many reasons why attempts at serving in marriage can go wrong, we may not fully understand our spouses’ needs yet because they are different than ours and there could be instances of bad responses to our efforts, but continuing to study our spouse and know them can give understanding to us on how to love them better.
God blesses all of our attempts to serve our spouse and be a godly partner to them. There is no doubt that if we have a good understanding of our spouse and their needs, we can serve them lovingly and produce favor for ourselves in their sight causing them to serve and love us in the way we need to be loved. We are to know our spouse so intimately that we can stir up their love for us and cause them to do good works.
Above all, clothe yourselves with love, which ties everything together in unity. ~Colossians3:14