Lisa’s thoughts on freedom in marriage…
I have had many conversations concerning what the bible says about marriage; I have heard spouses use it for their good and I have heard spouses use it against each other. I personally don’t feel that God gave us His Word for us to use it against each other in a fight or to use it to try to get our needs met by our spouse.
I feel that God addresses how we should behave through the Bible for our freedom.
This may seem like an obvious concept to some of you and to some of you it may seem absurd, but I think that God’s plan for marriage is about freedom for us. In fact, I think all of the direction in the bible is meant for our freedom. God doesn’t try to keep us from things so we don’t GET to experience them, He tries to direct us away from things so we don’t HAVE to experience them.
Do not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. 1 Corinthians 7:5 NIV
1 Corinthians 7:5 is a much debated verse in marriage and spouses often use it against each other, but if you look at the intent behind the instruction, it is about freedom. If we, as spouses, are tentative to one another and are meeting this need for each other as directed here, we need to ask ourselves “what do we get?” instead of asking “why do I have to?”. We get so many health benefits through sex (it seems like there are even more for women than men), husbands are protected from temptations like porn and other women around them when they are this bonded and close to their wives, and wives feel secure because their husbands are loving them and meeting their needs like they should because they are being taken care of in a way that God designed them for and knows they need.
God’s plan is always bigger and better than ours and although society does not necessarily subscribe to it, I believe there is greater freedom through it.
I could list hundreds of more examples from the bible, but the point I am trying to make it that if we really look at His instruction and plan for us and think about what He intended for us out of it, freedom can be found.