• New Loveseat

    Putting the S in Sex

    Ok, so I am going out on a bit of a limb here… I feel that women need to play more of a role in the sexual relationship in their marriage.  A lot of women feel a lack of satisfaction with the sexual relationship they have with their spouse but they never speak up about it.  I have been frustrated by the sexual differences between me and my husband.   The frequency of our sexual needs don’t line up and we can’t seem to find enough time to have quality sex some days, raising four children and running our own business keeps us very busy! The key to figuring this out…

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    Initimacy, Undivided Attention and the Golden Rule

    In Dr. Harley’s book “His Needs, Her Needs” he defines intimate conversation as talking about feelings, topics of interest/opinions, and plans.  Now I could not help but notice how deliberately he used the word intimate.  To me, the word intimate describes an interaction between two people, when I think of physical intimacy…I think of sex. Intimacy is very important when having good sex. Now for the ladies, Dr. Harley states that men need to give their wives at least 15 hours per week of undivided attention.  I can only assume that to give her this time and to begin being intimate, I would have to share about my feelings, topics…

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    Relational Accommodation

    Do you accommodate the relationships in your spouses’ life?  Do you facilitate the building of relationships or accommodate the time for your spouse to spend with other people in their lives? I have been contemplating this very thing throughout the month of October and this last week while my mom was here gave me a different perspective about accommodating relationships in Greg’s life. My husband makes room in our schedule for me to have coffee with friends and will even go out of his way to serve us while we are doing it! My husband frequently fills coffee cups and serves a treat to me and my friends while we…