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His Needs Her Needs Study Group

Starting November 15, 2016

This group will meet Tuesday nights from 6:30-8:00pm

This group is for married couples looking to gain some a better understanding of what makes their spouse tick and how to fulfill those things for a healthier and happier marriage.

His Needs Her Needs

In the classic bestseller His Needs, Her Needs, Willard F. Harley, Jr., identifies the ten most vital needs of men and women and shows husbands and wives how to satisfy those needs in their spouses. He provides guidance for becoming irresistible to your spouse and for loving more creatively and sensitively, thereby eliminating the problems that often lead to extramarital affairs.

Five Steps To Romantic LoveThis workbook is a supplement to Dr. Harley’s Love Busters and His Needs, Her Needs, books that have helped countless couples fall in love again and enjoy intimate, passionate marriages. All of the worksheets, inventories, and questionnaires that Dr. Harley recommends in these two bestsellers are available here in a full-sized and easily reproducible format. Using them will help you turn new insights into action!

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Purposeful Protection

Lisa’s thoughts on intimacy while apart…

On September 11th my husband left to go on a three week tour with the band he’s in, we have never been apart for this length of time, the longest he has ever been gone is six days.

My husband is out on a 23 day tour, which means we won’t have any intimate or sexual in person contact for that long! 

My husband has let me know that he doesn’t calculate sex by days, but by the amount of times he feels he needs to have a sexual release, so in this case 23 days is a really, really long time in his “man” time.

In our marriage, Greg has committed himself to not “handle” things on his own, so we always make sure we both participate where sexuality is concerned.

Knowing he was going to be doing this prompted a lot of conversations on our part for how we wanted to handle these 23 days.  We realized that we were going to have to make a game plan for how we wanted these days to go rather than just allow them to happen to us.

We both work together in our marriage to keep things pure and to keep us both protected from porn and any other temptations from outside of our marriage.

The obvious, but not ideal choice for us is to tastefully use the telephone, which is not something we have a lot of experience with, we were totally willing to try to figure this out to protect our sexuality and I wanted to keep my husband’s attention focused on me.

I didn’t question whether or not my husband could have remained pure for 23 days, but I didn’t want to leave any of that up to chance and chose to protect my husband. 

We have decided in our marriage that we confront things like porn and our sexuality staying pure as a team.  We both feel that outside sexual temptations do not belong in our marriage, so we will stand together against them rather than let them creep in and end up being against each other.

This is a choice we have made and it has really benefitted out marriage.

 

A Marriage Blessing

I recently got asked to speak a declaration over marriages at a women’s meeting, I decided to share this blessing 🙂

I declare and decree you will have a marriage that includes two equally yoked partners (2 Corinthians 6:14) walking in righteousness, saved by the blood of Jesus, protected by God and led by the Holy Spirit.  You will always walk in the light of truth with each other and wickedness will have no place in your marriage (2 Corinthians 6:14).  Let God empower you to receive all of the blessings and to walk in the intentions of the perfect one-flesh union He intended (Genesis 2:22-24).   No man will ever separate you because God has joined you together (Mark 10:9) and when trials come, the Lord will deliver you from them all. (Psalm 34:19)

I declare and decree that you will be a wise woman who builds up her house (Proverbs 14:1). You will be a woman of noble character who is a peacemaker (Proverbs 12:14, Romans 14:19).  You will be a trustworthy wife who respects her husband and is good to him all the days of your life, submitting to Him as to the Lord (Proverbs 31: 11-12, Colossians 3:18)

I declare and decree that your husband will walk in integrity and will speak the truth (Titus 2:7-8).  He will be a husband that honors you, being gentle, understanding and offering grace when needed (1 Peter 3:7, Colossians 3:19).  He will unite with you fully and love you as Christ loves the church (Ephesians 5:22-33).

I declare and decree you will love and care for each other in the ways God intended. You will be patient, kind, truthful, and protective of each other.  There will be no room for envy, anger or selfishness in your marriage; you will not keep records of wrongs (1Corinthians 13:4-8).  You will hate what is wrong, hold tightly to what is right and honor each other by loving with genuine affection. (Romans 12:9-10).

I declare and decree that your marriage bed will be honored and be kept pure (Hebrews 13:4)  You will be lovers and your desires will be only for each other. (Song of Solomon 7:10)  You shall share a healthy sexual relationship where you can be naked and unashamed (Genesis 2:25).  Your bodies will belong only to each other and you will mutually meet each others sexual needs respectfully and in love, never withholding from each other so there is no room for temptation to enter (1 Corinthian 7:1-7).  You will share the same desire and love for one another always (Philippians 2:2).

I declare and decree that you will both be united in your passions, goals and love for each other and that you will walk in humility, putting each other first.  I come against spirits of selfishness, conceit, confusion and apathy in Jesus Name; they are not God’s plan for you. (Philippians 2:1-4)  You will both have patience with each other, having open ears to hear the heart of what is said, not just the words spoken, taking no offense and being slow to anger (James 1:19)  Your mouths will speak edifying life to your marriage, you will have grace with each other and walk in the good fruit from the words that you speak (Proverbs 18:21, Ephesians 4:29).

I declare and decree that you will be a couple who continually prays, worships, and praises the Lord together (1 Thessalonians 5:16-18).  When you join together in prayer, the Lord will be present (Mathew 18:20).  He will hear all of your requests and you will trust in the Lord to meet all of your needs (Philippians 4:19).  You will abound in knowledge and discern between good and evil (Philippians 1:9-10), recognizing that your battle is spiritual and not against each other (2 Corinthians 10:3-4, Ephesians 6:12), praying together, trusting the Lord (1 John 5:14-15).

 

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