A couple of months ago a friend of mine talked about the concept of a sweetness missing that was once present in her marriage and how she went about trying to find it again, I have been meditating on it ever since. After a couple months of meditation, I have come to the conclusion that there is not the same level of sweetness in my marriage that their once was, this revelation has me looking at our marriage to figure out where it has gone.
I discovered that I may have been waiting for my husband to be sweet for me to be sweet back.
I know that a problem I have is mouth control, it is not excessive talking as my husband is the talker in our relationship, but it is generally the tone and demeanor I sometimes bring to the table. I feel as though I may have become insensitive to my husband in the way that I interact with him.
This made the lack of sweetness even more evident to me, why would he bring sweetness if I wasn’t?
I am not saying that my husband should not be responsible for his behavior or that I am responsible if he isn’t sweet, I am only noting that in relationship we frequently wait for our spouse to bring something to the table before we reciprocate instead of just bringing it to the table ourselves.
I am aware that we teach others how to treat us and that when we bring what we want, people usually follow up by returning what we bring.
I have spent sometime in prayer about this and I have decided to increase the sweet in my marriage. I didn’t know we were lacking it until it was brought to my attention through a conversation, and now that I know I am going to purposefully find ways to increase this ingredient in my relationship.
I feel that it is my responsibility to build my house and shape it in ways that I want, Proverbs 14:1 says the wise woman builds her house, but with her own hands, the foolish one tears hers down.
Please share examples of how you have found ways to add sweetness in your relationship…